How are you doing? Effectively, I hope, regardless of all the things. And in case you are, then you might be similar to all the buddies and colleagues who despatched me messages at Christmas, all of them claiming that they have been additionally doing simply positive, additionally regardless of all the things.
The contradiction right here is price exploring: I’m positive, you’re positive, they’re positive, however this [pauses to gesture vaguely at the universe] is a catastrophe. It might be as a result of my pals are all lucky individuals, shielded from the miseries of actuality, and it could be that they’re placing a courageous face on their secret struggling. However it could even be that there’s a curious mismatch between our contentment with our personal lives and our despair concerning the lives of others.
It could be helpful to have extra systematic knowledge on this mismatch and a decade in the past the pollsters Ipsos MORI gathered some. They requested individuals throughout 40 international locations what number of of their fellow residents would say they have been “somewhat comfortable” or “very comfortable”, then in contrast these guesses with actuality as measured by the World Values Survey.
The distinction was stark. Most individuals instructed Ipsos MORI they have been anxious about their compatriots’ wellbeing, and but most individuals who spoke to the World Values Survey have been fairly sunny about their very own happiness.
Within the US, 90 per cent of individuals stated they have been “somewhat comfortable” or “very comfortable”, however guessed that fewer than half of their compatriots felt the identical manner. The scenario was a lot the identical within the UK. In South Korea, once more, 90 per cent of individuals stated they have been comfortable — however this near-universal good cheer didn’t cease the Koreans estimating the happiness of different Koreans at 24 per cent.
Canada and Norway have been most optimistic within the Ipsos MORI knowledge concerning the happiness of different individuals, believing that 60 per cent of their fellow residents would say they have been, at the very least, “somewhat comfortable”. However these cheery guesses weren’t solely decrease than the fact in Canada and Norway, they have been additionally extra pessimistic than the nation with the gloomiest precise outlook, which was Hungary, the place 69 per cent of individuals stated they’re somewhat or very comfortable. This gulf between our particular person optimism and our gloominess about others could be very extensive certainly.
Sadly, Ipsos MORI has not repeated this decade-old train however in a latest essay Hannah Ritchie, writer of Not the Finish of the World, has assembled quite a few cases of this particular person contentment contrasting with pessimism about others.
For instance, for a few decade of knowledge within the US, the Federal Reserve has requested individuals about their very own funds, their view of the native economic system and their view of the nationwide economic system. 12 months after yr, individuals have been way more optimistic about their very own funds than about their native economic system and way more optimistic about their native economic system than the nation as an entire.
Internationally, residents in virtually each nation surveyed have been extra more likely to inform pollsters that 2025 was “a foul yr for my nation” than to say “it was a foul yr for me and my household”. (The exceptions have been Singapore and India.) Greater than 75 per cent of British individuals stated it was a foul yr for Britain however fewer than 45 per cent of Brits reckoned it was a foul yr for their very own household. Likewise for the long run: “58 per cent of Brits are optimistic that 2026 will probably be a greater yr for them,” explains Ritchie, “however solely 32 per cent assume that Brits general will begin to really feel extra optimistic concerning the nation’s long-term future.” I suppose it’s logically attainable for Britain to have a foul yr even whereas most Brits have a great one, nevertheless it appears extra seemingly that the contradiction displays some sort of glitch in the best way we predict.
Folks deal with totally different points when assessing how issues are going. In late 2024, 32 per cent of British respondents instructed pollsters that immigration was probably the most necessary points going through the nation, however solely 4 per cent stated it was an necessary subject for them personally.
It’s putting that these gaps are so extensive and so constant throughout subjects. So why do they exist and does it matter? Essentially the most believable rationalization is our info food plan. We might selectively bear in mind or interpret our personal expertise, however we’re at the very least ranging from a (slender) floor reality.
Take crime. The Crime Survey of England and Wales exhibits that crime has been falling for many years. For what it’s price, my very own experiences of being a sufferer of housebreaking, theft and arson inform the identical story — all of them happened greater than 25 years in the past.
But in some way once I activate the night information, individuals are nonetheless on the market doing crimes. The crime charge could also be trending downwards however there’s at all times some newsworthy crime someplace. Social media most likely isn’t serving to, both. Therefore the bizarre discourse on X from individuals (or bots) who’ve by no means been to London about how London is a dystopian hellscape.
Past the difficulty of crime, we inevitably get our details about the nation and the broader world by some sort of media, which is able to at all times prioritise the dramatic and the controversial. Details about our personal lives is essentially unmediated.
There’s additionally the query of management. The economist Johannes Spinnewijn as soon as studied the beliefs and behavior of job seekers and located that, generally, they have been too optimistic about their prospects and too pessimistic about their capability to alter these prospects. Seeing the world by “baseline optimism and management pessimism”, they anticipated to discover a job rapidly, didn’t hustle exhausting sufficient, and have been upset. The minority of people that have been pessimistic concerning the scenario however optimistic about with the ability to change it seemed more durable and located the following job sooner. The paranoid survive.
Spinnewijn’s distinction between baseline optimism and management optimism is beneficial. When ought to we really feel most optimistic about with the ability to affect occasions? Not when rage-tweeting about an outrage on the opposite facet of the world, however once we are appearing near house. Day-to-day actuality gives us an opportunity to be optimistic each concerning the baseline and about our alternative to enhance it.
Our digital lives push us within the different route. The destruction of native information and the rise of social media implies that our information consumption is more and more targeted on nationwide and world occasions — exactly the spheres of life the place we’re gloomiest. That is corrosive. Spend 16 hours doomscrolling and you might properly conclude the tip occasions are right here; spend 16 hours residing your life and issues won’t appear so unhealthy.
Written for and first revealed within the Monetary Occasions on 28 Jan 2026.
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